Monday, July 9, 2012

Why Is International Dating Considered Taboo?

Online dating seems to have shed most of its stigma as being a last resort matchmaking method for the socially inept. Millions of people all around the world are using internet dating sites to meet their soul mates. However, men who search for wives on international sites are still shunned with stereotypes.

One of the most popular regions that bachelors find themselves drawn to is the Former Soviet Union. Russian and Ukrainian women are very desirable with their stunning good lucks, feminine charm, and physically fit physiques. There are niche dating sites that specialize in facilitating communication between these ladies and men of other cultures. While men simply pay membership fees or purchase credit packages to use the email or live chat features, some compare this to buying a mail order bride.

Once people realize that these sites are similar to traditional dating services and that women are not actually purchased for marriage, maybe international dating will become more accepted. Some of the premium domestic dating sites charge fees and singles have no problems signing up to those. So what are some of the other issues with this industry?

Critics say that the services are simply not legit. They don't believe there are thousands of beautiful, young single Russian women seriously looking for husbands beyond their borders. They think they are just looking for a poor, old sap to send them money, jewelry, flowers, and tons of other tokens of their affection. Another theory is that they are only after citizenship, desperate to leave their own country.

Others claim the profiles are all faked and there aren't even any real ladies behind the computer screens. They imagine there are a handful of employees, mostly men, that craft the clever emails and keep suitors chatting online for hours at a time. While none of these assumptions have been proven to be accurate, rumors spread rapidly across the web. Those without the correct knowledge are left worried and wondering what could have been if they would have been brave enough to try.

There are always a few bad apples in the basket but the majority of ladies looking for love in other lands are earnestly searching for their soul mates. Russian and Ukrainian women largely believe in fate and how everyone has their perfect half out there somewhere. Many of them are also interested in world cultures and meeting people from all over the globe. International dating isn't just a chance at finding a life partner but it's an immersive learning experience!



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Saturday, July 7, 2012

Conversation Starters For Use With Russian Women For Marriage

I had a thought today: what if I was using an international online dating service and really liked a girl from, let's say, Japan? I imagined that I would write to her "hi" and "how are you" and maybe "how's your day going", and then my imagination arrived at an impasse. Do I know anything about Japan or Japanese culture, literature or food (besides sushi, of course!) that can help keep a conversation going? Probably not! Being a native Russian, I assume all the time that people should just know some random facts about Russia; in the same vein, people from Japan are likely to be of the same opinion. However, if there's a guy somewhere in Australia who has hardly ever traveled and who really likes a girl from Moscow, he might be somewhat anxious about how start a conversation or what she would love to talk about that wouldn't be boring! Well, in this article I will give you some hints about how not only start a conversation with Russian women, but also make them think that you are a very intelligent person, who knows a lot about different countries - trust me, that's always an attention-getter.

# 1. Politics.

If you want to make a good impression on Russian ladies for marriage, then you have to be an intelligent person (which you are) who is interested in what's going on in the world. So at the very least you should ask for her opinion about the last Russian election. If you were interested in politics, you would have seen on the news that this year's elections were accompanied by numerous protests. If a woman you like is from a big city in Russia, ask her: did she go to one of these meetings? Was it fun? Stressful? Scary?

# 2. Traveling.

Russian ladies love to travel! I honestly have never seen a single one who doesn't. They also love to hear stories about the places you've been to - especially if it's somewhere exotic. However, if you've been to Turkey or Egypt, which are very popular travel destinations for Russian people and are not considered exotic or cool anymore, you can still talk a lot about what you liked and what you didn't, like hospitality, food, weather etc. Saying that your dream is to get married on an island somewhere would totally sweep Russian women for marriage off their feet. Also, don't forget to say that you are planning to travel a lot more in your life, and someday you will definitely visit Russia, because it is of particular interest to you. It is understandable if you've never wanted to do that, but if your future bride is there (which may just be the girl you are chatting with right now), then you didn't lie at all - you do have an interest in visiting that country!

# 3. Food.

Practice shows that many American/Australian/Western people do not tend to like Russian food - and it is not because it is not tasty, just because they are not used to it. I had a friend from Wisconsin, USA, who never even wanted to try our national food, convincing me to go get pizza over and over again. My advice for you is to try being more open-minded. Go to the nearest restaurant that serves Russian food and try some of the most popular entrees. I would hope that you would like at least some of them. If you are looking for women for marriage, then you should not forget that a big part of a real marriage situation is having home-cooked meals. What if your fair lady is from Russia? Then you'd better get used to the taste of borsht, pelmeni and Russian salad. Yum!

That is all the advice for today about what Russian ladies love to hear during their first conversation with a foreigner.



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Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Top Five Reasons For Your Online Relationship With a Filipina to Fail

Long distance cross-cultural relationships are tough. Not only are both partners tasked to cut across differences in culture, they also have to put up with the lack of physical intimacy caused by their separation.

In my humble opinion, having tried online dating services and knowing the attitude of my female compatriots - Filipina or women from the Philippines, here are the top reasons for the failure of your online relationship with a Pinay (that's slang for Filipina).

1. I-Me-Mine Mindset. Of course, as they say, it takes two to tango. But you're not going to have that dance, if you think the world revolves around you. Anyone who persists on such an attitude and viewpoint, I think, should hide under a rock.

You and your Filipina partner both have needs and wants. It is simply not enough for both of you to view the relationship as a "give and take". You should help each other out to satisfy each other. Of course, if every relation - not just personal but even in business - it is better if both camps always attempt for a "win-win solution" to every problem.

2. Jealousy. Watch out for the green monster. Your Filipina partner is not your property. She and you, of course, should be free to have contact with other people. Social interaction is good for you (and her) so why deny yourself the opportunity to be better?

But if you feel other people are too close for your comfort, feel free to tell your mate. There should be boundaries, after all, but these limits should be created by a consensus.

3. Domination and Control. While there is now a general condemnation of patriarchy, (i.e., of male dominance over the female species) and a universal acceptance of equality among sexes, the control freak residing in some people make them want to dominate their partners.

With a cross-cultural relationship with your Asian partner, her usual submissive state may turn to open defiance if she would regard your attitude as "racist", which may mean that you regard her as a second-class citizen or your skin color as evidence of your self-perceived racial superiority.

4. Lack of Communication or Language Barrier. Filipinos in general are among the world best communicators. They converse very well in English. But there are still cultural barriers that may hamper open and free communication, such hindrances may lead you both to conclude that you're not talking on the same level. Be patient. Learn to listen with empathy and read between lines. Understand before trying to be understood.

5. Lies and Fault Finding. The sum of the above-mentioned four problems in a relationship would lead to the fifth, a low-trust environment where both of you find it easy to lie and to find fault in each other. You may nitpick on a wrong doing but you are not criticizing the act but the person.

Once in a much publicized breakup between a celebrity couple here in the Philippines, the husband was asked on what started his domestic troubles. He said that his wife was too wasteful as she squeezes toothpaste tubes near its caps. Of course, it sounded trivial but it shows that the split was caused by years of fault finding until the pressure was too much and they both called for a divorce. I hope these tips help you find a Filipina online dating partner to make you satisfied and happy.

Christian Singles Dating Expert Advice: Seeking God's Intended - Do Attend Mid Week Church Services

Single Christians do want to pursue a variety of help to find their God's intended celestial mate for them.

When you are a single Christian / Catholic man or woman looking for your Christian Soul Mate, often you'll be looking for that love at church. Now, if you're making efforts to visit other area churches of your same or aligned faith, do keep this in mind when scheduling your calendar. Not every Christian church actually has a Christian Singles Ministry. Additionally, not every Christian / Catholic single finds their Christian / Catholic Soul Mate at church in only the ministries that you would immediately think would attract and draw the singles.

Sometimes the very place you'll meet your Christian / Catholic Soul Mate or meet your Soul Mate through is a ministry unrelated to singles. Keep in mind, many singles meet their mate through acquaintances or friends. The majority of singles meet their mate through shared experiences and friends. How can you leverage that attribute of how singles meet their mate? Do aim to expand your social circle a bit. Look to host potluck dinners or luncheons at your place. And ask to be included at your new friends such events. Often it is in the second degree of influence out from your initial contact where you'll meet, connect with and bond with your Christian / Catholic Soul Mate.

What might that mean for you as a Single Christian Online Seeking God's Intended for You?

You could aim to attend the Ladies Ministry Group, the Men's Ministry Group. The Men's Prayer Group, or Active Prayer Ministry. Some ministries are more contemplative than others. Try one of each. If you are more of an active type, a doer sort, then often the person who will complement your temperament will have a slightly more introspective tendency than you do. So go look for the prayer groups. Attend the Days of Prayer which churches will often host in early May as well as on major national holiday Mondays when most people are off of work. If you are the spiritual introverted sort who want to pray for something to happen and leave the rest "to the Lord," then perhaps assist with a more action oriented ministry. Some good groups for you to consider joining and attending are outreach ministries, to the elderly, to a nursing home, to the homeless. Be on the look out for an active outreach ministry group which serves in an inner city urban Gospel ministry serving food directly to the homeless.

You don't have to do these things all the time. However, by stretching yourself just a little you may find yourself having reached your very Soul Mate and looking into their eyes beside you in prayer and service. And by doing something you two get to pre-taste what a shared life would be like together in a Christian Relationship. And that is what marriage is actually all about, isn't it?



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Thursday, June 14, 2012

How Do Filipino Girls Celebrate the New Year?

If you are looking to celebrate the holiday season in the Philippines, it should be of great interest to you to find out how do Filipino girls celebrate New Year in their home country. This ought to make your vacation more memorable, and not only that; it might also bring you closer to the heart of a Filipina.

In the Philippines, New Year is not a separate event, but rather an extension of Christmas. And so there is pretty much of the Christmas cheer left come New Year's Day.

A few days before New Year, vendors can be found in designated areas selling fire crackers (paputok), such as Baby Rockets, Rebentador, Jumbo Fountain, Whistle Bomb, Luisis, Watusi, Bulalakaw, and Triangulo. Actually the selling of firecrackers has been banned or already regulated because of the many accidents caused by these. Yet vendors continue to sell, and Filipinos continue to buy them. These firecrackers, lighted on New Year's Eve, decorate the night sky and create loud, deafening noises, bidding goodbye to the year that was and welcoming the New Year.

Typically, the men take care of lighting of the firecrackers, while women busy themselves with the preparations for the New Year's Noche Buena. They make sure there is an abundance of foods and fruits on the table at the strike of midnight.

Traditionally, Filipino girls celebrate New Year with their family at home. The more religious of the lot hear the New Year's eve mass, while others prefer to stay at home and help out in the preparations in whatever way they can. If you want to make an impression with a Filipina, offer to accompany her in Church and if she invites you for Noche Buena, accept it and offer your services. She will make you feel welcome at home and you will have a great time with her relatives and friends. The celebration lasts until way past midnight.

Well, that's how far as tradition goes. Modern Filipino women have other ways of celebrating the New Year. Some choose to have dinner in a hotel which usually has many exciting offers that include special dinner buffet and a spectacular display of fireworks at 12 midnight. And since it's often dangerous to go back home with many Filipinos out in the streets still lighting their firecrackers, these modern girls end up spending the night in the hotel.

The day after is a bit lazy for everyone. People are in their homes, sleeping, resting, or just lying about. There aren't many vehicles on the streets, no passengers waiting in terminals, no pedestrians crossing the streets. Most establishments, including malls and groceries, are closed, so there really is nowhere else to go but home. New Year's day itself is very quiet.

Now that you have an idea how do Filipino girls celebrate new year, you have a choice of sticking with tradition or jazzing it a bit to make it more interesting for you and for the Filipino girl you choose to celebrate the New Year with.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Why Filipinos Love Tim Tebow

Do you, as in the rest of the world, also wonder why Filipinos love Tim Tebow? What makes Tim so special that everyone, not just Filipinos, are going crazy about him? Pardon the pun, but Tim has indeed taken the world by storm with followers literally from every part of the globe. You don't have to be a football fan to love Tim Tebow. Read on to find out why.

Who is Tim Tebow?

Well Tim Tebow, apparently, is not your normal footballer, who amid criticisms, made it in the National Football League. Although it does count a lot that he is a great player (he led his team to many victories!), his humanitarian acts are what really won him the hearts of many.

Tim Tebow is an American who just happened to be born in the Philippines. His mother, Pamela, a Christian Baptist missionary, has had an infection while being pregnant with Tim, and at the time, the doctors feared Tim would be still-born, and so they recommended Pamela to go through an abortion, but she decided to keep the baby, no matter what.

Tim, like his parents, is deeply religious, and he is not afraid to let the whole world know about it. Tim is very vocal when it comes to his faith and his love for Jesus. While playing for the Florida Gators during his college years, Tim had painted biblical verses on his eye. He always mentions "My Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ" in press and news conferences, and whenever his team scores a goal, he thanks God first of all by dropping down on one knee, a move that has come to be known as "Tebowing".

Tim Loves Filipinos and the Filipinos Love Tim

The Filipinos love football, and they love Tim. It's no big secret that Tim loves the Filipino people as well. He has a soft spot for them. Having lived in the Philippines for a time, Tim has seen many Filipinos struggling financially. His foundation has several projects in the Philippines, among them:

  • The building of a hospital in Davao City. Expected to begin groundbreaking in March 2012, the hospital will have a 30-bed capacity and will focus on correcting conditions like club foot or bow legs. The hospital will not only provide treatment, however, but also messages of inspiration, hope and love, with the end in view of bringing people closer to God.
  • Uncle Dick's Home. The Tim Tebow Foundation also supports the Uncle Dick's Home in South Cotabato, Mindanao, which is home to 49 orphans.

You don't get to find many sportsmen like Tim nowadays. He is not poisoned by greed, power, and wealth, nor is he driven by these things. Tim is not just "showing off", either. It is not all lip service, as you can see. He loves Jesus and he shows it by being a good Christian himself, by setting a good example, by doing good things to other people. This, as well many other reasons, is why Filipinos love Tim Tebow.

Is It a Good Idea for a Christian to Date a Non Christian?

Today's Christians singles frequently meet other singles at the workplace, during an activity group, as well as socially at a friend's party. Is it wise to date outside of your faith? Decide for yourself in advance of facing this contemporary culture issue for single Christians.

Why are you dating?

Are you dating in order to find a mate and get married? To get married is more of the dating relationship goal of the 30 something singles as well as singles in the 40s.

However, often college age singles are not wanting to get married right now. College dating can often be a time more for relationship and communication skill development more than it is a time for life mate marriage partner selection time. If you are dating for finding a mate, then sharing the same religion is likely very important to tyou. However, if you are dating more to become skilled at conversing and socializing with the opposite sex, sharing the same religious identification and your date being a non-Christian can be an ok thing. In fact, it can aid you in stretching yourself culturally which enriches your life and your professional ability to relate well to others which can serve you well in your future career.

Do you want to have children with your future life mate?

If you are in the child bearing and rearing age group, then you definitely want to consider if raising your children in the faith you identify with is important and perhaps imperative to you. If you have decided you do not want children, you and your potential mate having different religions is less of an issue.

If you are past the age of having and raising children, then the paramount importance of your future spouse being a Christian like you are become less important in the hierarchy of mate selection criteria and character attributes.

Are you marriage minded now?

For the Christian singles who are dating with an eye towards actively seeking to find love and their future spouse, then be careful dating a Non-Christian. Dating a Non-Christian can be fine when your date is your escort. Even in our contemporary culture there are plenty of personal social and business social events where single men and women need to attend the event as a couple. When that is the case, your date need not be someone for whom you have romantic feelings. Instead, your date might be your escort.

However, singles often report that the man or woman they start seeing casually as a friend on a regular basis that they find they do start to develop romantic feelings for them. So do be careful what you are letting yourself in for. If you date someone casually for companionship and having a regular escort, you might find one, the other, or both of you start to get emotionally attached. If you do not seriously consider them a romantic contender and serious possibility for marriage, exercise caution and care for their feelings.

Having friends who are Non-Christians is a wonderful thing which enriches our modern lives. However, unless your Christian faith is more your ethnic identity and is not important to you, then avoid dating Non-Christians habitually when your primary goal is to seek a Christian spouse.



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